A Growing Epidemic

First off let me say Happy Thanksgiving!


When I began to think about what to write today, I was torn between writing about my career, or love. Well love was the winner. But only because of my Mother *Shaking My Head.*


I hope I'm not the first to tell you this, but we are dealing with a serious epidemic here in America, with many Black, Educated, Woman being single.  As of right now, the only cure is for us to meet ...a MAN.  Yes it may sound silly however, my mother sat on the couch today telling me how she is no longer excited about Christmas shopping because she doesn't have any grandkids to shop for.  I would use the excuse that my friend TM uses which is "You have more than one daughter." But my sister is only 21 and seeing as how I'm the oldest I will bite this bullet.


Well her comments kind of upset me, mostly because, "I'm not doing this on purpose!" Which were the exact words my girlfriend TB said to her mom. I would like more than anything to pile myself, my kids, and my husband into our nice size SUV to go to my moms house for the holidays. However, that isn't in the cards for me at this time in my life. If anything she should be more focused on the fact that in three weeks I'm moving away from home to pursue a career....and not a man.


Next(3 minutes later), she asked about my ex... if him and I have spoke and she just cant understand why not. So I think I finally answered her in a way that will keep her from asking me again.  "If I wanted to keep talking to him, then I would have still been in that hotel room when he got back from work." One Point for Me. *As the blogs go on I will fill you in more about what happened in that hotel room that day, but right now I'm still healing and trying to move on, and its working!*


Okay, so my mom has attacked the fact that she doesn't have any grandkids, and reminded me of my last ex boyfriend within a five minute time period. Trust, I would run away right now, however, my clothes are washing in the other room and I have 3 more loads to go.


I know I'm not the only female dealing with a mother that is watching your biological time clock closer than you are, and I understand that all of her friends are becoming grandparents; however there is a big difference between myself, the rest of her family and friends..... I went to school, I joined an organization, I became active in different groups, I graduated, set goals, and I'm actively working towards them.



And while I was doing all that, I have yet to meet a man, that is as driven as I am(that goes without saying faithful, handsome, job, car, nice smile, intelligent, and trustworthy)


TB once pointed out to me that, all of her friends with families didn't go to college, and the ones that went to college don't have families of their own. She also asked me if I would trade one for the other. My response was 'Never,' this degree is mines, and no one can ever take something I worked so hard for away from me. What about you? Would you trade one for the other.

*Self Love, realizing that everything will not turn out exactly as we want them to, however, we make the best out of what we are given*


It's clear that the older I get, the more these baby issues will come up with my mom, so I just have to think of better ways to handle them. Well all my clothes have finished washing and I'm ready watch this Beyonce Special again. So until next time Stay Chocolate(with no babies).