Happy Saturday Everyone!
Am I the only one who is lacking a certain level of patience in their life? For 24 years I never realized I had a scary tendency to be Impatient, and the only reason I know I’m impatient now is because my Graduate school teacher said it to me multiple times, while I was waiting for an internship to come through.
When Dr. S said that to me, I kind of blew it off, but then I slowly began to realize that she was Right.
I am the type of person that will quite a job if I don’t feel it is going the right way, end a relationship if I don’t feel like the person is up to “My Standards,” and will end a friendship before even talking to the person one on one. This can’t be healthy. But on the flip side I’m the type of person that will Not have patience when it comes to getting to know someone and will immediately start to picture our walk down the aisle..sad but true..and I blame Cinderella for this one(seeing as how it was my favorite Disney movie growing up).
So how can I combat this whole “Being Impatient” thing? Well I went online and found a few tips to help with my problem, and #10 is Def my favorite.
I’m on my way to take over DC night life, so Enjoy and Stay Chocolate.
1) Practice upbeat thinking. If you take care to monitor your thoughts and to delete any negative ones, you'll go far in maintaining a positive point of view. Upbeat thinking requires constant attention to the flow of your mind's output. Without knowing it, you could be letting undue critical, negative, or worry thoughts into your mind-where they will stay unless you train your mind to refuse them. So practice upbeat thinking-and focus only on those thoughts that bring you joy.
2) Take time for meditation. Spend about twenty minutes a day in nature or in a quiet room at home, just allowing your mind to be still. There's nothing more helpful than to be peaceful and calm in serene silence for a while. Especially if you are a person who is ultra sensitive to environmental stimulation, you'll want to rest your mind from the barrage of thought jabber that typically goes through it. Give yourself the tremendous gift of time spent in private contemplation. You'll notice a more joyful outlook as a result.
3) Do only those things that make you happy. If you find yourself choosing activities just because you should do them, and not because you want to do them, you may need to change your approach. You might be filling your schedule with plans and tasks that you really don't feel like doing, but you set about performing them anyway. Because life is meant to be happy and fulfilling, anything that doesn't please you should be removed from your life. Whether it's a job, bad relationship, or too many things to do, you'll have to decide what to get rid of and what to hold onto. If you manage to streamline your life to where you are satisfied in every area, personal and professional, your positive attitude will soar.
4) Associate with other positive people. At work and in your personal life, make sure that you surround yourself with people who are uplifting and optimistic. Enthusiasm is contagious, so do your best to select upbeat friends. On the job, it might not be as easy to control the people around you, but you can avoid those negative individuals by steering clear of them as much as possible. Should the people in your work environment turn out to be too challenging for you to handle day after day, you may have to find another place of employment. One shouldn't have to put up with negativity on a constant basis-it tends to drag even the most positive person down.
5) Choose a fulfilling career. Because your work should provide sustenance for your soul as well as food for your table, it's paramount that you select a job that offers you satisfaction and growth. Your career can be one of excitement, challenge, and service, instead of a lackluster way to pay your bills. The choice is yours to make at any time-it's never too late to pursue a career path that brings you joy and fulfillment.
6) Treat yourself well. If you don't take care of your own happiness, no one else will. Be sure to buy yourself the luxury items you enjoy, rather than putting off purchases for "some day." You deserve good things in life. Treats don't have to cost a lot, either-flowers for your table, bubbles for your tub, or that new book you've wanted to read can be acquired for a negligible price and will do much to add pleasure to your day.
7) Believe in your destiny. Your path isn't one of chance, but of purpose. There are no haphazard events in the universe, including the circumstances of your life. You are exactly where you are supposed to be, with one caveat: you have the power to change your circumstances as soon as you decide to do so. You have a special role to fulfill. By listening to your own intuition, you'll be able to determine what you need to do to carry out your destiny. Trusting in your path will open doors to opportunity and success.
8) Know the power of your words. In order to keep conflict to a minimum and understanding to a maximum, practice clear communication skills. First, pay attention to the words that you say, because your words can have a powerful effect on friends and strangers alike. An offhand negative comment can inflict more damage than you may realize, so take care to monitor your words for any possible destructive result. Second, your word is your bond-so don't promise something that you cannot or will not deliver. By saying one thing and doing another, not only will your friends and associates lose faith in your words, but you will lose faith in them as well.
9) Provide the best service. In your work, do your utmost to use your skills in service to others. Whether or not you have clients or customers, at work you are providing a service in some way. Believe it or not, you truly can change the world through your own actions in your immediate environment. Doing your job with integrity and out of a sincere desire to help others will bring back untold rewards. Just the other day, I experienced both ends of the customer service spectrum at two retail stores. In one national chain store, I was ignored, although I needed assistance in finding an item. The customer service personnel were too busy arguing among themselves to pay attention to my needs. I left, deciding never to shop there again. The experience was completely the opposite in the second store-I was treated with respect, and received the answers I needed from a person with kindness and enthusiasm. The moral of the story is clear: your attitude and the way you deal with the people in your work environment have far-reaching consequences. If you perform your job with a positive outlook and genuine caring, you will be successful and bring joy to others at the same time.
10) Be patient. When it comes to career achievement and personal happiness, you'll do best by practicing patience. In this era of instant gratification, you might have the tendency to expect everything right now, when the universe could have other plans for you. All happens at the proper moment. Do what you can to move your goals along, but stay alert for any adjustments that might be necessary. Let's say your desire is to be in a fulfilling romantic relationship. For you, it would be necessary to be patient as you wait for the partner who feels right according to your intuition. There is no absolute timetable for getting things to happen. It takes as long as it takes, so practice serenity and patience while you wait for the universe to bring you the essence of what you request.
© 2002 Kathy Sanborn
